One of the most important thing in life is to keep the joy in our mind. We do that by choosing always thoughts that are good, fruitful, positive, that is good for us and at same time a blessing to others.
In our relationships we want to share our happiness with everyone, but not everyone is ready or willingly to receive our way of seeing life. We must remember that there is so much negative thoughts in our world that some people do not believe they can be happy. On the other hand, every one is in different stages in life. Some may have a sadistic way of thinking. Others has been abused in their childhood. Others had relationships that destroyed their self-esteem. Others want to be happy their own way, living for pleasure alone, they replace pleasure for happiness, and sometimes they endup harming themselves and the people around them. Some live in poverty, because they are poor in their thinking, others live in sickness for, among others reasons, hating themselves, eating wrong, or because they don't care about life.
Every human being live in their own stage. Some take their problems thinking someone else can solve them, when we are called to solve our owns. We may receive advise, but everyone has to take responsibility for themselves and then take the decisions that are necessary. Some have so much negative aura, vibes around them that it can harm us. We need to approach each person with love and we need care for them and for ourselves. We cannot let their negativity damage our soul. We must not, by invitation or default,let their thoughts become part of us.
The bible say "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." Rom 12:15. It means, show sympathy with everyone, sym-pathos, walk and feel the same with someone. But sympathy does not mean take their place, live their live. Christ came to Lazarus's funeral, there "Jesus wept. Then the Jews said, "See how he loved him!" John 11:35,36. But instead of looking for the cause of their troubles, He brought the solution. Lazarus was brought back to life.
Instead of living someone else troubles, looking for the causes or to whom to blame, our approach is looking for solutions. Working through the thinking process so they can take productive decisions. If they are in a mind set that do not allow them to see and to change, our decision should be, show possible directions and let them take their own decisions.
Some organizations tell us that if we have a drug addict that we want to help, we need to let them go to the bottom until they really decide they want to change on their own. If we do not let them go, then we may go down with them and we may not be able or will not have the strength to pull them out when they need us. When people are unhappy and they do not want to change their way of thinking, we need to let them be what they choose to be.
When the bible says " Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. ",in the same context it's says "... each one shall bear his own load." Galatians 6:2,5. That means there is a time to help , help with their burden, and there is time to let them go, they are responsible for their own "load".
Allowing means too, respect other's point of view. We do not have to agree with someone in order to love them. Christianity has taught us that we should love even our enemy. "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you," Matthew 5:43.
We have seen so much hate in the media, and most of time start with just a desagreement in their point-of-view. We never are going to agree with someone in all their point-of-views. We are creatures born to develop our own way to see life, and that is the beauty about life. Each one bring to the table their views, and from that different views new ideas, technologies, improvements are created. Any given group can have common grounds and differ in minor points. What keep the group is the common grounds. If someone do not agree with the common, he has the option to find or create another group that have his common grounds. And so goes the humanity.
Paul said to the Romans: "One person esteems one day above another; another esteems every day alike. Let each be fully convinced in his own mind." Romans 14:5. Be convinced in one owns mind doesn't mean reject the other that do not think alike. Again, what keep us together is the common grounds. And that he said to a church.
One common ground that keep humanity united is the compassion for the fellow human being. When there is catastrophe, we see countries that having strong divergent opinions although come together to help one in need. To care about the planet, to improve the human life, are subjects that bring us together.
Allow others be what they want to be. I can have a friend Muslim, Budhist, atheist or wherever without agree with his/her ideas or beliefs. They have the right to tell me their beliefs if I want to listen, so vice-versa. It is by reasoning that I may accept or reject their way of thinking. If we work together our work is our common ground. If we live in the same neighborhood, the needs of our community is our common ground. We respect one another without agreeing about our beliefs.
We start a Law of Attraction group in our city, we met every other Monday night, there is people of all walk of life. We respect and love them all. Our common ground is the improvement of everyone, is to help people that want to change their lives in a more productive and abundant way. As a Christian I do not have to agree with everything that is said in the group, like nobody has to agree with what I say. But I love them and accept everyone, and is only through my true love that some can see the light that I say is inside me. I may share my views like everybody else. If anyone see in me something they would like to have, then they will ask me how to get it, and that goes both way.
It is an atmosphere of love, respect and acceptance that people are attract for. And any true change in life is a question of personal desire and decision.